Friday, May 18, 2012

Too late


I went to the funeral of my grandmother's cousin yesterday.
I met him at my grandmother's funeral just a few years ago. 
At that time, I talked to him about family, which it seemed he really liked to do.
Since I'm into the family genealogy, I enjoyed it too.
He asked me to come visit him and look at some old family photos and things, so I told him I would.
He lived a couple hours away, and I went only a couple of times, and visited with him on the phone a couple other times.
He did seem to really enjoy our visits.
Still, having only met him a couple times, and never having met his children, I was surprised to get a call from one of his daughters telling me that he appreciated my visiting him so much that he wanted me to have certain family heirlooms!
While I look forward to seeing and receiving them, I much regret not visiting with Leroy more than I did when I had the chance.
Isn't that always the case?
So, whatever you're doing, put it down, and call or write to someone that you know will appreciate it.
Both of your lives will be better for it.

Sunday, May 13, 2012

Happy Mother's Day

May all the mothers of the world have a day 
filled with peace, love and joy.


Tuesday, May 8, 2012

Wednesday Hodgepodge


Wednesday Hodgepodge is hosted every week by Joyce to give us in cyberspace a chance to get to know one another.  Here are my answers to this week's questions.

1. What is a pet peeve you have when vacationing?
The same pet peeves I have anywhere, I guess... people cutting in line would be one.

2. Would you describe yourself as a light packer or do you need everything in your closet plus the kitchen sink?
When I'm going somewhere I know the weather will be pretty consistent (like Phoenix or the Caribbean) then definitely light. But when going somewhere that could have varying weather, I pack a little more to be ready for whatever the day brings.

3. What's the best lesson a child ever taught you?
To just be yourself.

4. Share one piece of advice you'd give a recent graduate as they attempt to enter the job market?
Wish I had some, I'd share it with my girl!!! I'll have to glean some wisdom from the other hodgepodgers to give her.

5. What's your favorite lemon something?
Love lemony desserts, just about any except lemon meringue pie, and that's because of the "calf slobbers."

6. Flat sandal, wedge, heel...your favorite footwear?
Sneakers. I so wish I could wear cute shoes, but I have very wide feet and cute shoes just don't fit.

7. What do you like best about a beach holiday? If you're not a beach lover (GASP!!) what do you dislike the least?
Well, the fact that it's a holiday! But I do love going to the beach because there is something about the waves of the ocean that is so invigorating yet also peaceful.

8. Insert your own random thought here.
We've finally gotten some rain! A couple of inches so far this month. Hooray!! Of course we also got some hail, too, which is not so nice. Busted one of the vent covers on the RV, and really beat up our plants.  I haven't heard how the local orchards fared...I hope it's not bad news for the peaches. Peaches are big business around here, but I'm afraid they may be scarce this year.


Chatting with Patrice on the Farmhouse Porch


Chatting with Patrice on the Farmhouse Porch. Here are the questions:
  1. What do your everyday dishes look like?
Pfaltzgrafftea rose set.  I do have a few Cornell plates that we use sometimes when we eat away from the table, because they are so much lighter to hold, but I only have one set of dishes and I use them for everything. 

  1. What shoes are you likely to throw on in a pinch right now? "Go to" shoes.
Sneakers. Always. Hardly ever wear anything else.
  1. What's the last gift you were given?
Well, Saturday when I got home from a family reunion there was a vase of flowers and some chocolate on the kitchen table. Hubby did not get confused and think it was mother's day, he just didn't want to wait. Before that...um, I don't remember. We're not really big on presents around here, valuing intangibles more.
  1. The first face you saw this morning was-------------------.
My hubby. We're empty nesters, so it's just him & me to look at.
  1. What cup or mug are you most likely to grab for your tea or coffee? What's your "cuppa"cup?
I don't really drink hot beverages. I mostly drink water, from a glass that has a painting of a chicken on it. (I collect chicken things.)

Saturday, May 5, 2012

Family Resemblance


Today was a family reunion.  This was my paternal grandmother's side of the family, and I have never really known any of them.  So off I went to get acquainted with them.

You know how they say everyone turns into their parents eventually?  I walked in the door, a complete stranger did a double take, and shouted, "Kay!" running over to hug me. 
"Yes, I'm her daughter!" I said - laughing, because I didn't want her to feel bad about it, although she did anyway.

In spite of that, the general consensus was that I look more like my dad.  It was strange to continually have strangers stop me and say, "You're Allen's daughter, aren't you? You look just like him!" 

Here is a photo of my mom, one of me, and one of my dad.  I don't think I look just like either of them, although I can see some resemblance to each. What do you think?  


Wednesday, May 2, 2012

Wednesday Hodgepodge


Wednesday Hodgepodge is hosted every week by Joyce to give us in cyberspace a chance to get to know one another.  Here are my answers to this week's questions.

1. My daughter2 is graduating from university this month and plans to teach elementary school. What are three qualities you most want to see evidenced in a teacher?

Patience. Kindness. Aptitude.

2. You can tell a lot about a person by __________________.

The way they treat their pets.  Also by their vehicle.

3. What song makes you think spring?

Morning has Broken.
Here Comes the Sun
It's a Beautiful Morning
Sunshine on My Shoulder
Spring Fever
Spring Is Here
Spring Affair
First Spring Day
Spring Rain
It Might As Well Be Spring
Suddenly It's Spring
(Okay, I couldn't choose just one! These are all on my "spring" CD.)

4. May 1st is Mother Goose Day...share your favorite nursery rhyme.

Found this lovely illustration at: http://cmisswiech.com/childrens
Mary had a little lamb,
whose fleece was white as snow.
And everywhere that Mary went,
the lamb was sure to go.

It followed her to school one day
which was against the rules.
It made the children laugh and play,
to see a lamb at school.

And so the teacher turned it out,
but still it lingered near,
And waited patiently about,
till Mary did appear.

"Why does the lamb love Mary so?"
the eager children cry.
"Why, Mary loves the lamb, you know."
 the teacher did reply.

5. What makes someone unforgettable?

The way they treat others.

6. Should music and/or art be part of a well rounded education?

Absolutely, positively, without a doubt.

7. What social situations make you flustered and nervous?

Anything that makes me conspicuous.

8. Insert your own random thought here.

Been getting busier around here lately. I've been finding it very hard to find even a few moments to blog. Perhaps I need to organize better.  Nah, can't be that! :-)

Wednesday, April 25, 2012

A rant on immigration


Immigration has been a subject of great debate around here (various social circles) lately due to the Court's consideration of Arizona's law, and I have noticed an interesting fact: one side is arguing the benefits of legal immigration, while the other side is arguing the detriments of illegal immigration.  No wonder they can't agree!

Here are the basic arguments in support of immigration that I have heard (if you know of more, I'd love to hear them, leave a comment!):

1. Almost all Americans are descendents of immigrants.

2. They are not criminals, they are just people looking for a better life.

3. We need the taxes they pay.

4. We need the workers.

5. To deny them is racism and/or a violation of their civic and/or human rights.

And here are the explanations of those against it:

1. Almost all Americans are descendents of legal immigrants, who assimilated into the existing culture without demanding or receiving special benefits and privileges. (The beginning of European settlement is a-whole-nother issue, so we will confine ourselves to the time frame after the U.S. became a sovereign nation and had immigration laws.)

2. All immigrants are looking for a better life; illegal ones do it by breaking the law, and are thus criminals. If your home is nicer than mine, do I have the right to break in and start living there to better my life? Of course not. How ridiculous. Well, this country is just a larger sense of "home."

3. Legal immigrants may pay taxes, but illegal immigrants do not (other than sales tax). They do, however, benefit from all the things that taxes provide, such as free education, use of infrastructure, and free health care. Wait, did I just say taxes provide free health care? Yes, but only for illegal immigrants. The rest of us have to pay for our health care, in addition to the taxes that pay for theirs.

4. Of all the arguments for illegal immigration, I find this the most unsettling. It has a familiar ring, that harks back to the worst of our history.
Take this quote from Mary Sanchez, opinion columnist for the Kansas City Star: "[Arizona] certainly can't do much to address the problem at the heart of the immigration issue: our country's need for low-wage labor...It can't get them legally, any more than states like Georgia can, with its reliance on immigrant labor for agriculture." (Printed in the Kerrville Daily Times, April 23, 2012)
I live in the south, and I have grown up hearing how the "war of northern aggression" (yes, it is still called that by some) was all because the "d* yankees" wanted to end slavery - which the southern farmers needed to make a living.
Now, I realize that migrant labor, however low-paid and exploited, is NOT on the same level as slavery. The immigrant workers have the one, all-important factor of choice. But, did you catch the meaning of Sanchez's quote? 'We need workers we can exploit in a way that is not possible with legal citizens.' She would deny that, I'm sure, but read it again: "our country's need for low-wage labor...it can't get legally." Why do Arizona and agriculture-reliant states demand such low-wage earners? To allow higher profits for the corporations. The sister argument to this is that "Americans won't do these jobs." That is not the whole truth; to complete the sentence truthfully you must add "at those wages." Remember that citizens must pay, in addition to their living expenses, taxes and health care that illegal immigrants do not have to pay, and which can be very expensive. No wonder it takes a higher wage for a citizen to make a living. 
The real problem is allowing the exploitation of workers. That is just plain wrong. I am continually amazed that the folks who are supposed to have the "bleeding hearts" are the ones supporting this exploitation, as evidenced by statements such as the one above.
Besides that, the idea that such low wage workers are "needed" is a fallacy. Consider this: If citizens were hired and paid decent wages, those citizens would then be able to afford to pay more for products and services; thus, producers could produce higher quality goods - in the US, thus providing even more jobs; everyone from growers to suppliers to merchants would be able to charge more because the citizenry would be able to afford it with their decently-paid jobs; and then company profits would also increase. Everyone benefits. It would be cycle of prosperity, instead of the cycle we have now of insisting upon hiring illegal immigrant workers at poverty level wages so that neither they nor the citizens who now do not have that job can afford to purchase anything but the cheapest of the bare necessities, which causes producers and manufacturers to produce in the cheapest means possible, which means exploiting more workers both here and in other countries, which continues the cycle....
So please tell me what I'm missing here. It must be something, and something significant, because otherwise surely others would be pointing this out.

5. It is sadly but most definitely true that racism plays a part in the immigration equation for a great many people, and racism should be censured and condemned wherever it is found. All people against illegal immigration are not racist, however. There is an easy way to tell, and that is to notice whether someone is only against immigrants from a certain place. If one does not mind Canadians but is always railing against Mexicans, that one has a problem with race. The same rules should apply to everyone, no matter where they are from. But the rules should be applied! They do exist for a reason, after all. It is not necessary to single out individuals by profiling, but when law enforcement encounters illegal immigrants, it should be exactly that: law enforcement.

Well, that's quite a rant. 

I love a good debate. Any takers? (Just keep it decent.)